The operating words of this topic are appearance and attracting.
Appearance also means outward show, manifestation, looks, form,
etc. Attracting also means to draw, pull
towards you, be a magnet for, create a center of attention, catch the attention
of, exert a pull on, magnetize, invite, appeal to, fascinate, charm. The opposite of attracting is repelling.
Each individual is a brand. Think about the place of labeling and packaging in the branding project. Some
brands are marked out and sometimes identified only as the packaging and the
labeling presents it. When these two
aspects of the product are removed, it becomes difficult to recognize the
brand. This is the same case with human
The issue of appearance is critical in all presentations. It is more
critical in the presentation of the human person for consideration for benefits
such as employment, friendship and the serious business of dating which leads
to the selection of a spouse.
Though we may seriously argue that appearance is not reality or that all that glitters is not gold, we can, with
equal zeal, argue that the eye would first partake of anything before the
mouth. In other words, everything must
be beheld and considered suitable before it would be accepted, invited or be
associated with. That established, it
then appears unnecessary to overemphasize the importance of appearance in being
able to attract a date.
It might be important to let the boys know that even when they have wads of money falling down from their body
and a number of girls flock around like bees, that irresponsible dressing such
as sagging and dirty clothes and unkempt hair repels girls. If any girl shows serious interest in a young
man who comes across with lousy appearance, it is usually for other ulterior
motives than for a date with the objective of finding a courtship partner or
Sometimes, the girls feel that coming out half naked helps attract the men.
The contrary is the case. The
kind of young men such girls attract are the never-do-wells and the unserious
who most probably are coming because they have interpreted the show-back,
sleeveless and half-cladding blouses and revealing dresses as a sign of a
person of easy virtue who would easily accommodate effortless sexual
As the saying goes, you addressed the way you are dressed. If you turn out
regularly well groomed, you watch your language and choose your words to suit
the occasion, then you are presenting a good appearance that would enhance your
opportunity to attract the right type of date.
If you are in need of a date, especially dates that may lead to courtship and possibly marriage, then you
need to package yourself and present an attractive brand that have the
magnetizing effect on people of the opposite sex who you meet at work, school,
church, the library and at events. If
not, you would be getting the exact opposite of what you want – repelling good
dates instead of attracting them.