'How I lost two pregnancies waiting for dream man to be ready for marriage'

A Kenyan woman (not as same as in photo) has opened up about her struggles to build her life with a man she thought would be the father of her kids. 

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In an interview with a Kenyan media, the 22-year-old Teresa said that when she finished high school, she went straight into being a househelp.

She recalled how she was raised by both her mom and grandmother by working as househelps. During this phase, she met a man on Facebook, and quickly the two became an item.

"At first he blocked me because I was playing hard to get. Then I moved on, created another account as I could not access the previous one and friended him again. This time he was more receptive and i proposed to him that we become a couple and he agreed," Teresa told TUKO.

Teresa and her newly found love kept their communications running. The man even visited Teresa's home to see where they lived when her parents were away.

One day, Teresa decided to clear with her former high school and get her certificate. She was excited because the man lived near where she was schooled. He insisted that they meet and spend the night in that town that evening, and they did.

"I was so excited and so in love. I lied to my parents that I was at a friend's place and they believed me. One thing I noticed about this man was that he never was open to his family about us," she said in a phone interview.

Fast forward, 2019, Teresa got a new job but not last a month and was fired shortly after. Instead of returning to her home, she moved in with her boyfriend in his 'simba' at his rural home.

She noticed that he still hid her from his family. She was instructed to stay inside the small cubicle, and under no circumstances should she be seen by any of his relatives. And for three weeks, she did just that.

Only his siblings got a sneak peek of her, but they were all sworn to secrecy. The man's parents decided to send him to the city to work for a family friend, so their small arrangement was disturbed, and she had to go back to her parents.

"I decided to tell them the truth about my job. But I got a job in Nairobi too so I followed him. My off days were on Sundays and I would be very excited to meet him every week. Soon after I got pregnant and on informing him, his response was we get rid of the baby as he was not ready to be a dad. He warned me that if I kept it, he would leave me. I got so stressed but decided to keep it," she narrated. 

Desperate to have her pieces fall into place, she informed her mom and grandmother about the pregnancy, and the young man was summoned and asked to help raise the child, to which he agreed. But she knew this meant that it was over between them.

Unfortunately, due to the stress and pressure, Teresa says she lost her pregnancy.

"To date, I have never understood how this happened because I was not in pain at all. After finding out that I was no longer pregnant, the man came begging for another chance. And silly me I gave in again. This time we moved in together in a small house near where he works," she narrated.

Teresa got pregnant again in April 2020. The drunken truth Teresa remembers her lover telling her that he was never ready for marriage in one of his drunken stupors.

He even packed his bags and left her. Teresa became stressed again. This time her pregnancy was showing and at the sixth month. 

One morning, however, she woke up with contractions, and upon checking herself into the hospital, the doctors informed her that she was in labour.

Teresa gave birth to a baby girl weighing 500gms, but unfortunately, the little one did not make it. The grieving mom billed herself out of the hospital without the help of her man.

"Even in all what we had been through, he still never informed his family about us. I couldn't understand why he was keeping me a secret. So I decided to tell his mother myself. I stole her number from his phone and called her. The response I got broke my heart. She told me to leave their son alone," she recalled.

Teresa decided to visit his parents and tell them her story in person in the hope of saving her union, but that too did not work as the man refused to travel back home for the said meeting.

The young girl had no choice but to go back home to her parents and pick the pieces of her life again.

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