If a woman just goes along with a man….that does tell me he does not have to work to keep up her interest. There are many reasons a man leaves…but one also has to use their intuition…..that is key. If you really are honest and go with your intuition…….he just won't leave in 3-4 months as you both should have talked and talked about your needs, wants, etc. If he is truly into you it won't happen. Weed out the "commitment phobics" early,very early in the game.
But what if it's your job? There are certain times of the year when my work schedule has me working 6 or 7 days a week for 2 or 3 weeks straight, week nights are not good. I've met guys right at the beginning of one of those heavy work weeks & I know they don't believe me when I try explaining I'm not blowing them off, I really do want to meet him & ask him to try and hang on, that these crazy hours weeks are not all the time.
This was an interesting topic. I realized long ago that long-distance relationships were not right for me. They're too stressful, especially since I like physical closeness and touch, lots of hugs, etc. I would MUCH rather move to a place where I know I'm going to find the kind of guy that's right for me, than keep things hanging in a tough balance by "dating" someone out-of-state, let alone from another country.
AFAIC, seriously dating someone means the relationship is local with lots of get-togethers and bonding. If it's an out-of-state thing, what chance is there of emotional and physical bonding to the point of calling it a truly committed relationship?
And maybe this is just me, and maybe I'm oddly old-fashioned for still being a youngish woman of 38, but I can't imagine dating more than one guy at a time, anyway, especially if there are sparks enough at first that indicate it could be quite a serious thing. Do not get me wrong: I am NOT out to "trap" a guy into exclusivity right away.
But *I* freak out at the notion of doing the same thing: juggling multiple men and "keeping my options open." That very phrase makes it feel like the concept of the "job interview," or worse, "the meat market," where "I'm just browsing." I might as well read sexy rom
When out on the dating scene, it can be hard to decide what to wear, especially when a person is not sure where the date will be. The secret is to wear something comfortable and convenient, yet still show off your personality while looking your best. When choosingclothingto wear on a date, also keep in mind the weather and the season.
During the spring and fall it is wise to dress in layers. Wear a short-sleeved shirt, and top it with a light jacket. Women can wear a dressy tank top or light blouse. Men can wear a nice short-sleeved shirt. Fleece and leather are always a good option for layering because they are warm and can be worn with casual or formal attire. In the summer, a jacket is not needed unless rain is in the forecast. In the winter, a long sleeved shirt and jacket is usually required as it will be cold.
Feeling comfortable during a date is important. Casual pants or jeans and nice shoes are perfect for being comfortable while not being too casual. Give the impression that you care about your appearance by looking very put together for your date. Women should wear dress shoes or boots, even with a pair of jeans, unless the date venue is known and sneakers would be a better option. Men can get away with wearing sneakers if they are clean and in good condition, otherwise wear a pair of loathers or nice shoes.
Accessories and extra effort will make the dating attire come together. Girls can wear sparkly earrings and a necklace for finishing touches. Men can splash on a bit of cologne to smell nice for his date. Whatever outfit you decide to wear on the date, be sure that you are comfortable and confident and the date will be a success.
I was not complaining about being censored, I was saying that I was censored for far FAR less than what you are saying here, and I think Nerve owes it's audience some consistency in what it censors and what it does not. The fact I was censored for inflammatory language when trying to defend a point about the benefits of Viagra to both sexes, yet you are allowed to post repeatedly extreme sexist and prejudiced remarks here without any censorship, clearly demonstrates to me that Nerve will not tolerate a my (admittedly aggressive) defense of a civil discussion on viagra where irrelevant rapes are not being used as emotional blackmail to try and gain leverage, but WILL tolerate a woman repeatedly making statements so sexist and hateful it's hard to believe your IP has not been permanently kicked.
Your speech is hateful because you clearly see men as unworthy of the same respect you would give a woman, and you aggressively attempt to convince other people that this perspective is logical, ethical, necessary and correct as supported by "the DATA". You pretend to back this up with facts, but flee from any real discussion of statistics because you know you can't justify your perspective with any real evidence. Your emotional perspective is all that matters to you, and your perspective is that men are not worthy of the same respect or dignity that women are.
Hometown Zero is exactly me, except I still live in the same house with my parents and I have 2 jobs. The girl I love found someone else and I have a lot of friends but they all have spouses/LTRs. Take it from me HZ, life is s***; I have a new motto: Never loved, never wanted. Get some tattoos and start drinking, that's the only comforts we have.
That a person has lover(s) is her own concern. If her lover doesn't feel responsibility towards his wife, why should she, who presumably doesn't even know the wife? She didn't make vows to this woman, the lover did. Why do people not see this, and jump straight to the 'whore' conclusions?
Admittedly it's not the ideal situation, but Blueberry and her situation sounds far less threatening to the family unit of her lover than women who are with married men in the hope they leave their wife and/or family for them.
There's a difference between "it'll happen on its own (with no input from you whatsover)" and "don't stress about making it happen." One of my best friends, at 25, had never had a real girlfriend (he had had some pretty cool friends with benefits, but those were very casual). He really stressed about it, but finally actually tried just chilling, doing what he liked, and letting stuff happen. He loves swing dance, and started going to dance events not desperate to meet someone, but just to have fun. He did meet some pretty girls, including one he had a short relationship with . . . and then he met his fiancee doing the one thing he never thought would lead to love . . . playing World of Warcraft. So I guess the lesson is do go out and do fun social things, but don't freak out about whether every fun thing you do is going to bring you your soulmate.
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If a woman just goes along with a man….that does tell me he does not have to
work to keep up her interest. There are many reasons a man leaves…but one
also has to use their intuition…..that is key. If you really are honest and go with
your intuition…….he just won't leave in 3-4 months as you both should have
talked and talked about your needs, wants, etc. If he is truly into you it won't happen.
Weed out the "commitment phobics" early,very early in the game.
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But what if it's your job? There are certain times of the year when my work schedule has me working 6 or 7 days a week for 2 or 3 weeks straight, week nights are not good. I've met guys right at the beginning of one of those heavy work weeks & I know they don't believe me when I try explaining I'm not blowing them off, I really do want to meet him & ask him to try and hang on, that these crazy hours weeks are not all the time.
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This was an interesting topic. I realized long ago that long-distance relationships were not right for me. They're too stressful, especially since I like physical closeness and touch, lots of hugs, etc. I would MUCH rather move to a place where I know I'm going to find the kind of guy that's right for me, than keep things hanging in a tough balance by "dating" someone out-of-state, let alone from another country.
AFAIC, seriously dating someone means the relationship is local with lots of get-togethers and bonding. If it's an out-of-state thing, what chance is there of emotional and physical bonding to the point of calling it a truly committed relationship?
And maybe this is just me, and maybe I'm oddly old-fashioned for still being a youngish woman of 38, but I can't imagine dating more than one guy at a time, anyway, especially if there are sparks enough at first that indicate it could be quite a serious thing. Do not get me wrong: I am NOT out to "trap" a guy into exclusivity right away.
But *I* freak out at the notion of doing the same thing: juggling multiple men and "keeping my options open." That very phrase makes it feel like the concept of the "job interview," or worse, "the meat market," where "I'm just browsing." I might as well read sexy rom
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During the spring and fall it is wise to dress in layers. Wear a short-sleeved shirt, and top it with a light jacket. Women can wear a dressy tank top or light blouse. Men can wear a nice short-sleeved shirt. Fleece and leather are always a good option for layering because they are warm and can be worn with casual or formal attire. In the summer, a jacket is not needed unless rain is in the forecast. In the winter, a long sleeved shirt and jacket is usually required as it will be cold.
Feeling comfortable during a date is important. Casual pants or jeans and nice shoes are perfect for being comfortable while not being too casual. Give the impression that you care about your appearance by looking very put together for your date. Women should wear dress shoes or boots, even with a pair of jeans, unless the date venue is known and sneakers would be a better option. Men can get away with wearing sneakers if they are clean and in good condition, otherwise wear a pair of loathers or nice shoes.
Accessories and extra effort will make the dating attire come together. Girls can wear sparkly earrings and a necklace for finishing touches. Men can splash on a bit of cologne to smell nice for his date. Whatever outfit you decide to wear on the date, be sure that you are comfortable and confident and the date will be a success.
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I was not complaining about being censored, I was saying that I was censored for far FAR less than what you are saying here, and I think Nerve owes it's audience some consistency in what it censors and what it does not. The fact I was censored for inflammatory language when trying to defend a point about the benefits of Viagra to both sexes, yet you are allowed to post repeatedly extreme sexist and prejudiced remarks here without any censorship, clearly demonstrates to me that Nerve will not tolerate a my (admittedly aggressive) defense of a civil discussion on viagra where irrelevant rapes are not being used as emotional blackmail to try and gain leverage, but WILL tolerate a woman repeatedly making statements so sexist and hateful it's hard to believe your IP has not been permanently kicked.
Your speech is hateful because you clearly see men as unworthy of the same respect you would give a woman, and you aggressively attempt to convince other people that this perspective is logical, ethical, necessary and correct as supported by "the DATA". You pretend to back this up with facts, but flee from any real discussion of statistics because you know you can't justify your perspective with any real evidence. Your emotional perspective is all that matters to you, and your perspective is that men are not worthy of the same respect or dignity that women are.
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Hometown Zero is exactly me, except I still live in the same house with my parents and I have 2 jobs. The girl I love found someone else and I have a lot of friends but they all have spouses/LTRs. Take it from me HZ, life is s***; I have a new motto: Never loved, never wanted. Get some tattoos and start drinking, that's the only comforts we have.
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That a person has lover(s) is her own concern. If her lover doesn't feel responsibility towards his wife, why should she, who presumably doesn't even know the wife? She didn't make vows to this woman, the lover did. Why do people not see this, and jump straight to the 'whore' conclusions?
Admittedly it's not the ideal situation, but Blueberry and her situation sounds far less threatening to the family unit of her lover than women who are with married men in the hope they leave their wife and/or family for them.
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There's a difference between "it'll happen on its own (with no input from you whatsover)" and "don't stress about making it happen." One of my best friends, at 25, had never had a real girlfriend (he had had some pretty cool friends with benefits, but those were very casual). He really stressed about it, but finally actually tried just chilling, doing what he liked, and letting stuff happen. He loves swing dance, and started going to dance events not desperate to meet someone, but just to have fun. He did meet some pretty girls, including one he had a short relationship with . . . and then he met his fiancee doing the one thing he never thought would lead to love . . . playing World of Warcraft. So I guess the lesson is do go out and do fun social things, but don't freak out about whether every fun thing you do is going to bring you your soulmate.
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