This week, on Sunday – the first day of the week – I listened to a drama aired by the Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria (FRCN). Pleasantly, it was about a lady desirous of getting married but faced with a daunting task of choosing whom amongst two differing suitors she would give her hand to. It made for entertaining listening as I had just looked up the Scripture portion for the week and – you guessed - it too was speaking about a marriage although not one as perplexing or tinged with paradox as that which our FRCN actress was exhibiting.
Comparing both situations, I find the first difficulty our actress faced is the question of judging who the right man to wed should be. A clue: the first man introduced – new to our actress (and in a wedding ceremony) - was just beginning to find his feet (read: materially/cash wise) and was offering love in place of comfort (read: actress’ synopsis). Man number two, an old school mate of our actress can provide the sort of comfort our actress seeks: actress doubts his love though. Her dilemma is simple: both men possess one part (in this limited drama presentation) of a whole. Question from the author is: which will carry the day – love or wealth? Then our actress’ second difficulty is what her response to love without wealth or wealth without love should be.
To pursue our main story (the marriage in the Scripture) I must confess that I have not represented the FRCN drama in an exact manner as to escape creating any sort of bias although the drama as presented carried enough bias in favour of both men - what is termed, dramatic irony as the plot could swing either way and not minding the emotional attachment or sensible discernment the audience may express towards either of the contending suitors.
The Scripture in contrast to the FRCN drama presents a marriage proposal with one dilemma: the question WHO? Wealth or comfort is not an issue: our man is wealthy and his servant who is sent on the errand of bringing him a wife displays his master’s wealth. We can sum up the plot for this Scriptural marriage process as: I have wealth, now whom – that, ‘WHO’ – is worthy of my love? This question brings to the fore love’s supremacy over wealth (and I am now going against my desire not to become critical of the FRCN plot even though it wants a part 2).
Love is a quality whose devotion transcends wealth’s quantity as it is limitless. This is why the Scripture seeks to establish if the intended wife is wise, understanding and able and which makes me certain our actress to resolve the stagnation in the FRCN drama will have to resort to a similar employment as Scripture used.
Bereshith (Genesis) 24:12-20 “Now let it be that the young woman to whom I say, ‘Please let down your jar to let me drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and let me water your camels too,’ let her be the one whom You have appointed for Your servant Yitshaq (Isaac). And let me know by this that You have shown kindness to my master.”
And it came to be, before he had ended speaking, that see, Riḇqah (Rebecca), who was born to Bethu’ĕl, son of Milkah, the wife of Naḥor, Aḇraham’s brother, came out with her jar on her shoulder.
And the young woman was very good-looking, a maiden, no man having known her. And she went down to the fountain, filled her jar, and came up.
And the servant ran to meet her and said, “Please let me drink a little water from your jar.”
And she said, “Drink, my master.” And she hurried and let her jar down to her hand, and gave him a drink. And when she had finished giving him a drink, she said, “Let me draw water for your camels too, until they have finished drinking.”
And she hurried and emptied her jar into the trough, ran back to the fountain to draw water, and drew for all his camels.
There are many other things to note about our sister Ribqah however, the foremost and our introduction to her is character: a nature of service. This is the basic characteristic of love: its (expressive) giving.
I would expect our FRCN actress to come up with a test – which resolves all doubts - as this but scripturally it is the place of the man to do the finding and cleaving. Love to you all and have a blessed week of Yahweh through Yeshua Messiah.
Bereshith (Genesis) 23:1-25:18, Melahkim. Aleph (1 Kings) 1:1-31.