1) Purpose is the intention or reason for creating a thing. Everything must have a reason for existing including man 2) It can also be defined as the manufacturer’s intention for making a thing and the essence for the existence of a thing.
“To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven” Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV)
“There are many purposes in a man's heart, but the counsel of Jehovah shall stand” Proverbs 19:21 (MKJV).
The discovery and understanding of purpose is the foundation of living. (Psalms 11: 3) It precedes your education, position and situation in fact it is the beginning of living and until you discover your purpose, you are not living but merely existing.
The ability to discover and understand purpose is the right of every believer (child of God) and that gives us advantage over the world. Until you discover your purpose struggle continues because everything you do will be a subject of guess work and assumption. Purpose is consciously located or discovered not determined since only the inventor has the full custody of purpose. (Jeri 29: 11- ) We are (creatures) produced in the factory of God and are not a product of accident but created for a purpose.
In the context of marriage, the purpose of it is the original intention of God for ordaining marriage and like it was mentioned above we cannot assume or guess but it is to be discovered from the manual of life which is the word of God.
Lack of understanding of the purpose of marriage had caused and is still causing serious abuse of that sacred institution in the world today. As long as purpose is not known abuse is inevitable.
This is the real foundation without which every effort put into building process will be futile. Just like the building process of a building cannot commence until there is an approved building plan in place nor will any authority allow any aircraft to take off without proper flying plan stating take off place, landing place, route etc; any attempt to go into marriage without properly equipping oneself with this reality is highly suicidal.
That is why we will be taking time to discuss the purpose of marriage here as highlighted in the scriptures
1. The Number one purpose of marriage is to provide help meet,
“And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him”. Genesis 2:20 (KJV)
It means somebody that is suitable, adaptable helper and complimentary not a burden but an asset to the man. I could picture Adam wondering in His mind what was happening when naming the animals and discovering that they were in pairs and everyone could find their right partner.
In fact Contemporary English Version of the Bible rendered that scripture this way: “None of these (animals) was the right kind of partner for the man”. Genesis 2:20 (CEV) (emphasis added)
This means it was not just about any other living thing around but the one that was specifically made by God for that purpose who can fit in as appropriate help “meet” not help “mate”. The help meet is the one created to help the man (Adam) to fulfil the God ordained purpose for His life including procreation etc, which makes a man marrying another man (homosexuality) or a woman marrying another woman (lesbianism) ungodly because that kind of arrangement was not an idea that came from the originator of marriage (God) but an opinion of the product (man) inspired by the devil.
There is no way that kind of union can lead to them fulfilling the purpose for which marriage was ordained and their destinies e.g. in fruitfulness and multiplication.
Ignorance of this biblical truth has given birth to all manners of perversions and has been one of the major sources of destruction of many marriages and destinies.
2. Fellowship / Companionship
“And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man”. Genesis 2:21-23 (KJV) Note that when the Lord opened up Adam to make Eve, He removed one of His (Adam’s) ribs and closed up the place. He only returned it in form of the companion called Eve his wife. This is to show that there is a void in man that only woman can fill and the woman too belong to a particular place, which explains why he/she cannot find rest until he locates her/him. This is the same picture the word of God painted our relationship with Christ (Ephesians 5:31 - 32). We proceeded from Him (born of the Spirit) and cannot find rest until we locate and take our place in Him. No wonder God said in Malachi 2:16 that He hates putting away or divorce simply because it makes the people He created to become incomplete.
God ordained marriage for companionship, man was created to enjoy relationship or fellowship and that must not be compromised in marriage.
Your work as a woman everyday is to see how your husband will rise and fulfil his God ordained purpose as you partner with him and your first job is to make the environment conducive for that. A tension soaked environment kills the mind and does not give room for productive thinking.
Couples should take conscious effort to establish and maintain fellowship otherwise marriage becomes a burden instead of the blessings it was designed to bring.
How to Enhance Fellowship
a. Faithfulness to the core is needed not face fullness (eye service)
b. Commitment c. Sacrifice (no room for selfishness)
3. Unity (Ps 133: 1 – 3, Eph 4: 3, Lev 26: 8, Deut 32: 30) Marriage is ordained as a means of greatly multiplying your strengths:
“And the Lord said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do”. Gen 11:6 (KJV)
There is power in unity no force will be too strong to stop you from being fruitful if you are united.
There is tremendous power available when a couple combines in unity to pursue a course that is why conscious effort should be taken to ensure and maintain the unity of the family.
The body was designed in such a way that all the parts though different in nature and functions still complement one another and that is what guarantees good health. In the same way God equipped the man and woman with diversities of abilities which produces great result only when used together.
Having this understanding is so essential for a healthy marital relationship and makes no sacrifice to appear to be too much to be paid for a united home.
4. To avoid fornication
Purity must be your choice without which no man will see God. The word of God made us to understand that it is better to marry than to burn.
Sexual relationship between a man and a woman that are married is godly and is very good. God the originator of marriage ordained it to be and gave it to humanity to enjoy as long as it is done in accordance with His word.
I believe that one of the main reasons why the devil flooded the world with sexual perversion is to show his hatred for humanity and lure him (Man) to abuse this blessing so that something that was initially designed to be a blessing will become a source of sorrow and aches to the man.
However we thank God for the revelation of the truth in His word that shows us the mind of God concerning the issue of sex and marriage
1Corithians 7: 3 – 5 If your spouse is not romantic, you have the responsibility to teach him / her to become one. Read books on it and don’t be shy to discuss your feelings with your spouse. Remember the word of God says “They were both naked and were not ashamed” (Genesis 2: 25)
Feel very free to have a nice feeling for your spouse. God made the body for connection, it is natural so don’t pretend you don’t need it.
Romance reinforces the covenant of marriage. It is the vital reason for setting up the home and for preserving it.
You must be ready to give your spouse your body. NEVER! Deprive each other of this mutual obligation.
5. Spiritual Reinforcement (Ecc 4: 9 – 10, Deut 32: 30) “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken”. Eccl 4:9-12 (KJV)
Tremendous forces for conquering and subduing opposition are made available when people of one mind come together and the forces become unimaginably great when it is between a married couple. The forces of agreement can be put to work; battles are won easily with two who are in agreement than one. Marriage makes spiritual prosperity.
Note that the scripture above says that a threefold cord is not quickly broken signifying the unity between the man, his wife and God.
There is no force from the pit of hell that can stop such union as man and His wife partners with God they become an unbeatable force.
6. For child bearing
Everyone is commanded to be fruitful and that your fruits will abide not die. Children should not die because from the beginning it was not so. Chase away the enemy out of your life. Children are not supposed to be source of concern or burden but blessings to you. Forbid any complication in child bearing because the mouth of the Lord has declared that you will not be barren. (Deut 7: 14).
For my readers who are married, this presents a great opportunity to appraise our minds and marriages and see if we are still in line with the plan of God concerning our marriages or not, it is not for condemnation but to wake up to take responsibility. Good marriage is not wished into place but by taking covenant steps and running it with the prescription of the one who ordained it even Jehovah Himself. Receive the grace to align with the truth in Jesus name
If you are not yet married or about going into it, I advice that you prayerfully acquaint yourself with the truth concerning marriage so that you can reflect the glory of God and fulfil your destiny martially in Jesus name.
I will not forget to emphasize that purpose is discovered not determined, the only person that can reveal your purpose to you is the Holy Spirit and you need to be born again to have access to His ministry. You can read books about purpose of marriage for example but you still need the help of the Holy Spirit to live by it.
If you want Jesus to be the Lord of your life and your savior say this prayer:
“Lord Jesus, thank you for your love for me, I acknowledge that I am a sinner, and that you died and rose again to save me. I am ready to surrender my life to you right now, come into my life, cleanse my sins and be my lord. Thank you Jesus for saving me. In Jesus name (Amen)”. Remember you are not safe if you are not saved! If you have said that prayer congratulations to you!
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God bless you!