There is an American soap – name forgotten now – where the following statement was made: Love is one product you cannot sell by
giving out sample. The predominant mindset of the women,
especially those who feel time is running out on them because of age seem to be
give the man a little booty if you want help them decide to marry
you. Nothing can be further from the truth. We have countless cases,
but no one seem to be ready to learn from their past mistakes or the mistakes
of their peers. If you give a man a little booty, if you allow a man who
has not signed the dotted lines before your Church or the Registry and your
parents to see your nakedness or have sexual intimacy with you, you reduce the
chance that he will marry you by 90%. That is a big risk to run. At the
same time, you erode the elements of mutual respect, trust, faith, honour and
virtue by 100%, meaning: if he ultimately marries you, there would be no
strength in the foundation of that marriage to produce happiness and make it
There is a higher doctrine of marriage that the world needs to seriously be considering at this time. This is the eternal dimension
of marriage. The popular thing known to man is till death do us
part. Marriage is part of the eternal plan of God for His
children. If we plan marriages on the till death do us part
basis, we increase the chance of failure and heartache. However, if we
plan marriage with a vision of the eternal relationship in mind, we would make
the foundation sure beforehand.
Sexual intimacy, no matter how thrilling, has no capacity to sustain a relationship beyond one hour. It would be good to have evidence to the contrary.
The late Lucky Dube cried: my mother didn’t tell me the truth; my father didn’t tell me the truth….about the government.
Mothers please tell your daughters the truth. Fathers tell your sons the
truth. Let fathers tell their sons the reason why they have no respect or
why they have great respect for their mothers. Let them open up as to why
they are not happy in their marriages to their sons’ mothers.
Mothers, instead of telling your daughters to deal with men because you suffered in their hands because of your own mistakes, help them
to stop ruining their lives. A popular African proverb that says, the
sheep is messing its tail up, thinking it is messing up the shed for its
owner. When premarital sex is involved in a relationship,
the girls/women lose the most whether it continued into marriage or
failed. The men always get what they want –sex and the girls always lose
what they really want –love.
Sexual intimacy outside the bond of marriage is immorality. Dating is not a license for sexual intimacy. Ladies, protect yourselves.
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