What we hope to figure out through experience (d…good, d…Bad & d…Ugly relationship) is who – if anyone – can still be trusted with our precious (protected and/ or unprotected) heart?
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
I have been heartened to write about this important topic ever since I came to America a while ago…because I notice that you seldom mention what is presumed to be your own personal distinctive sensations…without someone saying; wow! I always thought I was the only one. In other words; it’s not about me it’s about us. It’s about our day-to-day journey (survival) as a passenger on the spaceship Earth. BE MY GUEST!
“In order to be an immaculate member of a flock of sheep, one must above all be a sheep oneself.” – Albert Einstein (food for thought)
Presumably, I’m sure we can agree with the Wikipedia’s definition of “Broken Heart.”
A “broken Heart” (or heartbreak) is a common metaphor used to describe emotional pain, or suffering one feels after losing a ‘loved one,’ whether through death, divorce, breakup, physical separation betrayal, or romantic rejection.
Scientifically, there is a condition known as “Takotsubo Cardiomyopathy”(broken heart syndrome) as describe by wiki…where a traumatizing incident triggers the brain to distribute chemicals that weaken heart tissue. Even though this might be relevant to the subject matter, but we need to leave the big, big words to the scientist and doctors. So, accept my apology. Let’s stay focus.
Having said that, now let’s get down to the nuts and bolts of our dialogue…Broken Heart sensation: and the whole 9yd.
There are two kinds of people when we talk about relationship: Those who protect their precious heart to avoid not being broken and those who don’t. See the attached illustration for references.
Now let’s look at the advantage and disadvantages of the two types of people (U & I) in question.
Note: According to C.W. Lewis; the alternative to tragedy or at least to the risk of tragedy is damnation. In other words; the only place outside “Heaven,” where you can be perfectly safe from all dangers and perturbation of “Love” is HELL. Pause & think (Food from thought)
Please go back and read the sentence again and again. Why…? Paradoxically, it really summarize the essence of why some of us will prefer to protect their heart…wrap it carefully run with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lockup safe in the casket or coffin of our selfishness and why some (minority…If I may) would prefer to do the opposite. Why…? Because they (the latter) believe there’s no safe investment. Myth logically, U’re doomed if you do; U’re doomed if U don’t. Food for thought!
The unfortunate scenario is that in that casket-safe, dark, motionless, airless presumed to be secured will experience “change.” It will not be broken; but it will become unbreakable, impenetrable. Is that what we want? I guess not. Pause & think again. (Food for thought)
Consequently, to love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, including but not limited to your significant half and certainly not only be wrong, and probably be broken. In other words; if you’re in the former category, and want to make sure of keeping your heart safe and intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even plants or animals for crying out loud.
I had to agree with C.W. Lewis that the most lawless and inordinate loves are less contrary to God’s will than a self-invited and self-protection lovelessness. We shall draw nearer to Almighty God, not by trying to avoid the sufferings inherent in all loves, but by accepting them and offering them to Him; throwing away all defensive armor. That’s when MYO … ‘faith’ (d unknown…d unseen) becomes authentic.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT
In other words, if our “hearts” need to be broken, and if He chooses this as a way in which they should so be it. (Food for thought)
As a courtesy let me seize the opportunity to share my experience and what I’ve learned as an (experienced) adult whose heart has been broken (couple of times…) but survived with no scar.
To God be the glory…To know how/why continue reading you might learn something.
Lesson to be learned…
It’s no coincidence that I choose the number eleven (11) as my cutting point (superstition…if I may) but those two figures 11 seems to be associated with the fiend. For my man-made logic…One (1) represents each letter…B.R.O.K.E.N – H.E.A.R.T.
Food for thought!
BE MY GUEST!
I’ve given up almost everything and ended with one thing, a heart that is broken; but, I’ve learned…
B …that nobody can control who they fall in love with, nor can they choose if that person breaks their heart, but U can choose to pick your heart up and learn to move on…
R …that locking your heart and wrapping it carefully run with hobbies and little luxuries; avoiding all entanglements; doesn’t mean it can’t be broken.
O …that it’s more dangerous and damaging to cry inside our heart than to cry in the open. Why..? Because open tears can be easily wiped away but those few secret tears can create everlasting scars.
K …that when we’ve peace of mind (day –to-day practice) we are not timid or anxious, or fearful, or rigid and we’ll not allow any disturbing thought to influence us.
E …that when a man loses his grip (broken heart), he must win his redemption by his own will. Our weakening tendencies must be conquer – alone.
N …that we should not love our partner more than we love ourselves because it is essential to develop a strong love and appreciation for our (personal) life and our partner as well, which will result to ‘independent happiness’ for both.
H …that it’s very hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting your partner’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
E …that life in general is like a book and sometimes we must close a chapter and begin the next one especially in a relationship.
A …that no matter how much work a husband does around the house, if he doesn’t know how to give his wife affection, d marriage can still go down the drain.
R …that it’s good habit to ask for d details before you say ‘yes’ when your spouse asks, “can U do me a small favor.”
T …that what most people especially your spouse want most is to be “LOVED”… and be “APPRECIATED.”
In a nutshell: What really keeps me going (if anyone cares to know) is the Universal spirit, which is GOD that operates through a Universal mind, which is the Law of God; and that we’re surrounded by this creative mind which receives the direct impress of our thought and act upon it. My choice from d former and d latter is obvious. I hope you learn something from my upshots…
Prince (Arc.) F.K.O.Bakare