THis is the recent experience i had with  a guy who came to me with the aim of leaving the rest of his life with me @marriage proposal. Read carefully, it all started in Dec 2009. this guy had seen me before then in an occassion, we exchange emails, contact and that is it. He's been bogging me through yahoo chat, phone calls so finally i said ok lets give him a try no harm in trying. that is how 31st dec all began. we will have series of chat all night, him telling me it good to communicate since we practically did not live in the same city or town atleast  8hrs drive to meet each other. we continue for 5months precisely without much relationships wahala. But what strick me much in everything is that he was a perpertual liar, man of 'grand ambition' always having project online (GOING ON) and non accomplished. He works as an IT (information tech) but is always broke, never got income of his own. His complains are: I did this job for this guy worth 250box but he doesnt want to pay me i dont know what to do? Inshort i've been working all nite trying to  rest some money they dont wanna pay me! i think i need to change my strategy. u dont see am working hard@ am trying my best it not moving, i need to move from here dont worry i've come up with a plan very soon,............. inshort i need to cut down on my expenses, dont u think it nice i go back to my parent place, get one room in the boyz quarter so i can start saving, it a nice idea right! so on so forth bla bla bla bla .............. then when u ask him coucou whatz up? how far what are ur plans now? just wanna know? That is trouble for him as if asking is a crime; I remember that even Christ encourages us to ask and you shall receive right!!!!!!!!. he will say;cant u be patient i told u give me sometime. Then finally i decided it was time i quit the relationship to give him sometime. Now am the one who is not reasonable, i want to hurt him, i've been planning for this, how can i do this to him, oh am running away from him cuz he cant afored to give me money, he is struggle and i know he has plans for us thing will be bettter in the future. Tell me sincerely is he worth keeping? Is it time to call it quit and do better things or hung around and cry if only i knew this was ................................. ? or let say women are too naive that they cannot take major decision especially that of dopping a man first before he dops u! then i'll ask this question what do this men take us for?....... LADIES?

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well lucy, since the relationship has not establishd itself .... i think it is ok to leave before it gets too complicated. Is it your fault he is in the situation that he is in? we have choices and you are not obliged to stick with him.

our men have a way that makes you feel guilty for situations that are not your fault. Let him go and get himself sorted, he will feel better within himself and not so 'edgy' all the time. you will ask him 'how's everything baby?' and then they'll start snapping back at you! who's got time for that crap??!!!

you need to enjoy life ....and you don't need money to do it...your man can still make you feel good without having to be rich. if he feels he needs to have millions of naira to make you happy, then you may have along wait.
I think the guy wanted to use you as a hanger. Better watch it. Hanger has no benefit to itself, other than keeping someone's clothes tidy. However, be wise as a serpent.
good for you! life's too short....enjoy yourself.

lucy berrinyo said:
thank lily, bridget and peter for ur contributions. Am glad i quitted the relationship, whao! how it feels good to be free and single again!.
thank lily, bridget and pete for the contributions. Am glad i quitted the relationship. Whoa! how nice ........ choa choa
THANK fAITH age is still on my side dear.

Faith Onyema said:
Do say that the relationship started Dec,2010, while we are yet to enter december. Well my advice to you, just read the hand writing on the wall, if age is still on ur side, u may wait for he till he's ready. But if not, find ur levels to aviod heartbreak.
You better run as fast as you can. There are many other serious guys out there. They may not be rich but they could sure give you the joy that comes with having a relationship unlike the perpectual complaints from your guy. I think the problem with him is laziness. He needs to get something else doing if what he does at the moment isn't paying his bills. Look elsewhere for better option my dear.
Wish you all the best.
This is 2010 Ladies.....what are you doing to better your own live, or are you waiting for a guy to leach of. Maybe you should go back to school....by the way how old are u? you sound too young to be bogging yourself with such a serious issue.
I agree with Adeniji, run run run run like the devil is after you, this guy is not only a joke but also a time bomb of troubles brewing for you in the future. I mean we all have problems in our personal lives and relationships but he is living a dream and with what you said so far, he is about to go into a coma and God knows if he will ever wake up from that. I know love is meant to be enduring and all that but we also need to be realistic as a lady, time is very crucial so you have got to move on.
Brown P said:
I agree with Adeniji, run run run run like the devil is after you, this guy is not only a joke but also time bomb of troubles brewing for you in the future. I mean we all have problems in our personal lives and relationships but he is living a dream and with what you said so far, he is about to go into a coma and God knows if he will ever wake up from that. I know love is meant to be enduring and all that but we also need to be realistic as a lady time is very crucial so you have got move on.
pls. lucy, escape for thy life.

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